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If you think your husband might be cheating, give him all the rope he needs to hang himself with conflict. In other words let him make the mistakes that you know he is going to make, don’t accuse until you have sufficient proof. The rate of infidelity is rising, so below are some of the top signs that you should look out for to check your cheating partner.

1. 90% of cheaters will do so in our own bed at some time during your relationship. If you suspect your husband has been cheating on you in your own home, try making your bed in a particular way, check it every day, if you’re husband has been using it with somebody else, you will know as he will have made differently.

2. Set a trap. Use one of your friends that he doesn’t know to help you with this. Get your friend to check on him at a bar or a party and record the conversation. One easy way to do this is to have her call either your or her answering service just before she talks to him, this way you can have concrete proof of his infidelity.

3. Your husband will more than likely take full advantage of the fact that you are out of town. So you can trick your husband by telling him that you will be going away for a weekend, be sure to give him details of when you are leaving and when you are expected back. Say goodbye, find a good vantage point from which to view your house and wait, you should not have to wait too long.

4. It is important that you keep an eye on all your husband’s financial transactions. This includes ATM withdrawals, receipts, and credit card statements, keep an eye out for any unusual transactions. You may be lucky and find some obvious evidence such as motel room receipts, or a jeweller’s receipts, although you have not had any new jewellery recently. Your husband may be cleverer than this, and could be using cash to buy gifts or pay for things for his new lover. He may give himself away though if he is withdrawing the same sum of money at the same time every week or month, which he will be using to pay for a motel room.

5. Monitor both his cell phone and your home phone. If you have access to his cell phone bill, watch for repeated calls or calls of long duration and the times. Watch how he uses his phone, does he answer it then move out of your earshot, does he take it everywhere with him, including the bathroom. Note whether returned calls to you are extremely delayed without verified reasons, or if he always turns off his cell phone when he’s with you.

If you have no concrete information on your husband you can always play the bluff, try saying something like, I know what you’ve been up to and I will give you one chance to own up and tell me the truth. You may be able to get the information you need, but chances are he will just lie to the bitter end.

Rest assured though that he will screw up sooner or later you just need to be patient and watchful. The easiest way to do this is to hire a private investigator, however, this can be expensive and will also add to your guilt if your partner is not cheating. My advice is to start off by looking for these signs then if you feel it is necessary move onto the next step.

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