Patience Will Help You Get Your Ex Back
You and your partner have recently broken up. After careful consideration you have decided that the two of you not being together is just wrong. The planets aren’t aligned that way. You belong together and you want to get your ex back.
You feel so strongly that this break up is all a mistake that you want to contact your ex not now, but right now. By phone, email, text or in person you are determined to get in touch with your ex and explain that this break up is not right.
But the truth is if you do initiate contact at this early stage you will do more harm than good. It may be very difficult for you but you have to wait, you have to be patient.
The Split Happened for a Reason
You and your ex have split up for a reason, or more likely for several reasons. The cause may not make sense to you but it is still important. If now, soon after the break up, you charge into making contact with your ex, demanding to be heard, you will make the situation even worse than it already is.
Difficult as it may be for you, now is the time to play the waiting game.
How long you have to wait before initiating contact is a decision only you can make. The circumstances of the break up will help you to judge.
If you and your ex were having problems for some time before the break up, wait longer. If there was a lot of anger in your relationship or at the time of the break up, wait longer still.
What do you know about your ex? How long will it take him or her to calm down? Once you think you have a good idea of how long to wait, double the time.
While You Wait, Look To Yourself
How ever long you decide to wait, use the time wisely. Again, think about the reasons for your break up. Blame can certainly be laid at the door of both you and your partner but you can only control your own actions.
Don’t beat up on yourself but do look at the role you played in the break up. You need to understand your own faults and mistakes. When the time is right and you are talking to your ex about reunion you have to be able to say that you are aware of these problems and are really trying to make corrections.
Patience is key at this early stage. Practice self-control, don’t rush things and work to improve yourself and you have a great chance of not only getting your ex back but becoming a better person as well.
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