by Tomas N. Anderson
Research Study Reveal Women Love Sex As Much As Men The title statistic was determined by Dr. Paige Padgett at the University of Texas. Padgett’s 2007 study entitled “Personal Safety and Sexual Safety for Women Using Online Personal Ads” was published in a widely respected journal of the National Sexuality Research Center (Research & Social Policy Journal).
Dr. Padgett’s research involved seven hundred forty (740) women who had put dating profiles online seeking men. The result of the study: Earthshattering!! Thirty-three percent (33%) of the women daters had sex on the 1st date. Even more shocking, seventy-seven percent (77%) of them didn’t use a condom.
Virtual Intimacy Theory Dr. Padgett did not conclude that these women were sluts. Conversely, she found that women who would usually be careful did in fact participate in unprotected intercourse because they were lulled into a sense of virtual intimacy.
Dr. Padgett reasoned that the “virtual intimacy” was created by the disclosure and exchange of personal information through frequent e-mail and telephone calls. The women revealed information about their backgrounds, sexual preferences, and their likes and dislikes with the men they eventually slept with on their 1st date.
Dr. Padgett concludes it was the exchange of personal information that created “virtual intimacy”. The women created a pseudo-relationship (whether or not one really existed) which resulted in sexual intimacy more quickly than usual.
So What Does This Mean For Gents? The take home here is: Start Online Dating Today! You’ll save money as it’s cheaper than going to clubs & bars and you’ll get laid on the 1st date 33% of the time. But make sure you use condoms.
My take on Padgett and her study: Her interpretation of the data is overly paternalistic and paints women as helpless creatures taken in by men that create a sphere of “virtual intimacy”. Bullshit!
Applying Common Sense To Padgett’s Study Let’s apply common sense and give women the credit they deserve. Women who date online know exactly what they want. They want to find attractive mates that meet their dating criteria. They select one or several potential mates from the endless number that constantly email them. Then they asked a series questions to determine whether this particular male meets their criteria. If so, it’s on!
If you shine a light on what’s really happening, you’ll discover that the women are the ones speeding up the sexual relationship. How? Simple. The women in Padgett’s study (and all online women daters) try to learn as much as possible about their potential sex partners as quickly as possible, whether by telephone or e-mail before meeting face-to-face.
Why? To allow themselves to engage in sexual congress as soon as possible. Once a woman convinces herself that a man meets her criteria she will sleep with him. And in every case in Padgett’s study, the women had already decided through email and telephone conversations that the particular man in question met her criteria or at least enough of the criteria to warrant sex!
How To Use Padgett’s Study To sum up, women love sex as much as men. They, however, take a substantially different approach than men. And this is the most important fact that I’ve learned from my own online dating experiences, which is supported by Padgett’s work: Women must first convince themselves that you meet their dating qualifications and that you are a Quality Man.
This is where so many guys shoot themselves in the foot. They think that they must have (1) money; (2) power; or (3) fame to succeed with women. Simply not true. Here’s my secret that is backed up by Padgett’s findings: To succeed in online dating the only thing you need to do is not disqualify yourself. Women have questions, yes. They have criteria, yes.
However, women only require that you reply to their questions or hold yourself out in fairly open manner in order for them to say to themselves, “Hey this gentleman seems normal, he’s available, and he’s mine.” At this point, they’ll grant themselves permission to have sex with you.
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