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I will break into this week’s helpful hints for quitting smoking by telling you about last week. Last week was one of my roughest weeks in that my father passed away quite unexpectedly. As I look back I can see the signs in that the last few years of his life were not very happy ones. He did not have much of a life, as all that he enjoyed had been taken away from him.

As I watched my dad in his last years I saw a weary, dreary life. Songs and jokes he had once loved to spout were gone from him. His ability to do skits and act in silly ways was no longer present. Even the food he had once greatly enjoyed had lost its flavor inside of his illnesses. He was, in short, deprived of all that he loved in life.

Now it may seem odd to talk about this in a blog entitled “Helpful Hints for Quitting Smoking.” So I will tell you that I consider this blog to be more along the lines of an inquiry- and I do not have all the answers.

Now one could argue that I am an expert on addictions, and why people do what they do, as they do it. And one could argue that I am an expert on how people can shift their behavior. But in the final analysis, neither I nor anyone else can have you quit smoking. It is only you who can do it.

So I mention this about my dad as an inquiry, and because I could see in those last days of his life that the heart and soul had gone out of him. There was nothing left for him to live for. And although he was clearly struggling about letting go of the people he loved, on some level I could see that he had a wish to go.

And if one has a wish or desire to go, or if one is unfulfilled and not living a life that is happy- Or, worse yet, if one is living in some terminal upset or pain, then all of the trying to quit smoking in the world will not make a difference. There will be present a sort of desire to go that will thwart your every attempt to stay here on this earth. And we all know that smoking has a very real possibility of taking your life in the not too distant future.

Now I certainly do not say that all people who smoke have a death wish. I know too much about the emotional and physical pull of an addiction to ever say something so simplistic. However if you do smoke and you want to quit, it would seem to be smart inquire into your will to live and your life circumstances. Because without a strong desire to stay on this planet, all of your efforts may be null and void.

My dad, before he became so desperately ill, had a strong love of life and a high level of happiness no matter what his situation was. You can have that too. You can begin to do this by being honest with yourself about the true state of your happiness and then taking the steps to live a life you love. This in turn will increase your will to live. As you do that you can also be using Hypnosis or Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or some other tool to help you to quit smoking. Taken together, I would see this as a good formula. Now living a life of happiness can seem to be a bit elusive. However, it is a subject I speak about in my other blogs, so visit them as well, and they should be a help.

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