Friendship – cultural and personal perspective
As a great quote was saying, “friendship is the bridge between Earth and Heaven”; actually, no matter how much you analyze this quote or how much you try to describe friendship in words, they could never be enough to define it. It’s all about giving instead of expecting or receiving; it’s about feeling when a friend is down and visiting him for no particular reason.. It’s about trust and confidence, it’s about sharing, it’s about another kind of love.
But in order to be able to have such feelings, you must first be friends with yourself; a person that can’t be friends with itself, can’t have any other friend in the whole wide world. That’s literature’s take on the subject. Quotes such as “the greatest sweetener of human life is friendship”, or others alike illustrate the special value given to friendship in both classic and modern works.
Psychologists propose many theories for explaining friendship, such as: social exchange theory, rational dialectics, equity theory, attachment styles and so on. They concluded that confidence is the most important ingredient in a friendship – this satisfies the human need to share deep secrets without being betrayed; to build this kind of trust, time is necessary, but once the rules broken – wounds don’t heal very easy, or they don’t heal at all. In the end, as we can imagine, friendship can’t really be put into theory exactly, but certain characteristics do apply.
The word itself is very powerful – “friendship” being responsible for modifying human emotions. That’s why some(as the politicians) exploit it for their own interest it, by using it in political speeches. People perceive it and react to it at their subconscious level – that’s where it power comes from. Politicians have even used it to define relations between states and this contributed to distorting its initial meaning in a way.
Since love transforms itself into a beautiful friendship in the end, we could conclude that it’s probably the best human emotion there is – but that would be trying to put it into theory again. The ones who felt it(and I’m sure anyone felt it at least once) know its sweet taste as they also know the bitter sweet of the betrayal. They’re both part of our lives and they’re here to stay.
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